Hmm, while investigating into the state of a relationship- I thought it would be a good opportunity to do the process step by step-
I refer also to the Aeclectic Tarot Forum study group lead By Sylvie Steinbach as she teaches the technique on how to approach complex questions-
My sitter (W) requested me to look into if the the man (M) she is thinking of will propose to her. Background- they met 6 months ago, are separated by Geography. W thinks the world of M and thinks M is the One!
This is a good case and quite important- So I thought first thing is to look at what are his thoughts about her.
Q: What are M’s thoughts towards W? ( by this I mean how does he see her essentially). Keycards charged were 28 Man and 29 Woman
‘ 22 Crossroads + 16 Stars + 29 Woman + 25 Ring + 9 Bouquet’
So- this is looking at how a man views a woman. In order to do that- have to think like a man! :)
I kept this simple- central cards gives me an idea of what M thinks of W. He sees her as a dream come true (Star quality).Creative,imaginative and independent embody the Star. With the Ring on the right- suggest loyalty, long term commitment prospects.
to the Left – Crossroad+Stars- Here- thinking like a man now- M is not without choices when it comes to girlfriends or prospects- but out of them all he sees W as the one that stands out (Star). Crossroad+stars- Leader/commander– this is funny as I think this represents W as on top of the leader board as far women is concerned for M.
To the right- Ring+Bouquet- it is becoming obvious M is serious and thinking of comitting to W with a view of possible marriage, he wishes to make her his companion- with bouquet he sees her as an exotic looking woman with beautiful features (hair, face and teeth)-very attractive/a gift to him. I Think the Bouquet here serves as Yes card to confirm that this is indeed what he is thinking. Ring+Bouquet-pleasant transaction– yes- so there is possibly going to be a proposal which is going to be welcomed by W — :)
I wondered about timing– is he considering to propose in September (9 Bouquet)
Question 2: Is M going to propose to W and when is this likely to happen? For this- I charged keycards 28 Man, 29 Woman and 25 Ring.
This is supposed to be a multi-level spread-
The layout is supposed to be in levels- but the draw here, all the cards came in one sequence where the keycards are separated by 2/3 cards only :) this was good as I flipped and looked at each card- a story was evolving..:)
‘8 Coffin+ 34 Fish + 28 Man + 31 Sun + 15 Bear + 29 Woman + 35 Anchor + 10 Scythe + 13 Child + 25 Ring + 24 Heart + 32 Moon’
I will break this down individually to see how this works out-
As all the cards came in a sequence- my Focus shifts to the Woman card-as it is she the central person the event is happening to–
In my My Mystical lenormand- the Significators are facing each other. In the modern day- this doesnt reflect much as designs of cards vary. What is important is to look at the cards between them.
In order for the proposal to take place ( or not)- certain events needs to happen- like in the real world. The cards in between tell us about this. So,
Man + Sun + Bear + Woman + Anchor + Scythe + Child
Now the focus is not only character but situational analysis.
Bear represents achievement-being top level management. So it indicates an expectation of being in a position of authority. Bear+Woman-powerful/caring. Anchor is sign of stability and longevity- it makes sense when you are settled in your work and established- you think of settling down/marriage- Woman+Anchor- stable/realiable.
This is interesting. In order for M to propose- he has to go through some changes (thinking/profession etc).
I think this is represented by the cards around him-
Coffin + Fish + Man + Sun + Bear
Fish- is independent lifestyle (personal and work). He obviously liked his savvy independent lifestyle. Self made man (finds his own way in life-also a globe trotter)- probably works in Financial field. Sun is all about high achievement, ego-virility,protective. So we see M wanting to be a high achiever/succesful in what he does.
Coffin is difficult card- signifies endings/new beginnings/transformation- perhaps M has been through a difficult transition –thats caused his some pain. Since the coffin is before the Fish- I feel it is good- as he has improved for the better- losing something difficult to improve his prospects :)
In his future the Sun+bear-Financial success/venture capitalist -hmm– looks promising- it would appear he wishes to make himself a candidate worthy for W.
It is becoming obvious- aside from the fact he wants to become successful and be financially well off- he wishes to be a partner worthy of W’s status/ loyalty and commitment. As he doesnt see W as just any other woman (see question 1) he is making sure that all the practicalities are being addressed, I think . Hmm– ( all of this sounds like it is going to take ages) The male ego (Sun) is unique as he wishes to be seen as an equal to W [as well in order for the relationship to last and settle down (Anchor)]
I think I’ll study this relationship further- If I were to analyse the cards from W’s point of view- looking back in the direction to M- this where the past/presents comes into play- the cards in reverse- ‘Woman+bear +sun+Man’- she already sees him as being financially well off and successful –lol!!! This serves to prove how men and women think differently.
next step– I want to see how the commitment factor is looking like-
We have in a sequence continuos through the draw-
anchor+ scythe + child+ Ring + heart + moon
the ring is the keycard- what is the child doing there?
this is where I am going to do something bold- I am going to represent their relationship with the Child card- as it is a new relationship (note only 6 Months) it is plausible to represent it as something young/ fragile and growing-Because I asked will he propose and the ring is there- we are not losing the information and it is still in the future location.
So now read- Anchor+scythe + Child + ring + moon + heart
around The child- Scythe and ring-
Scythe represent decisions made without hesitation/cut and dry/irrevocable- Scythe+Child- mean miscarriage or abortion- what I feel this is – decision made at a very critical stage! hmm- could it be critical event will take place and will make them see that whats matters is the fact they wish to be together? Child+ring-small contract :) i suppose deciding to commit and getting engaged is a small contract :)
lets see as a whole- to the left of the child-
Anchor+scythe-sudden life changes-
scythe + child- critical event in their relationship- a make or break situation-
To the right (future possiblity)
Child+ ring- small contract- ? is this the engagement-
Ring+heart-marriage/committed love/civil union
Heart +moon- happy romantic relationship with intimacy!!!!!!!!!
I was beginning to think M & W see each other as marraige potential for very practical reasons– but it appears all of this is going to change in the future when something threatens to destroy their relationship – it is then they see that love and passion is what is going to get them together– and yes of course– there is going to be a marriage made out of romance and passion– :)- I suspect this year- I shall watch this space too– I do hope I am at the wedding —